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Embrace Thine Self, Free Thine Self, Love Thine Self

Today, I want to share how to discover and embrace your authentic self. One thing that’s always fascinated me is how people respond to the question, “Who are you?”

Based on my observation and interaction, folx tend to answer the question by proudly announcing their job title, marital status, or parental status. When you encourage them to dig deeper, it becomes obvious that they haven’t given this question much thought. This leads to another question: How can you be authentic if you don’t know who you are?

Dr. Deepak Chopra suggested that we ask ourselves four questions:

  1. Who am I?

  2. What do I want?

  3. What is my purpose?

  4. What am I grateful for?

Dr. Chopra said our answers will lead us to nirvana.

In addition to asking the four questions above, here are 12 tips to help you discover and embrace your authentic self. Please remember what the late, great Audre Lorde said, "If I didn't define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me and eaten alive."

Resist being eaten alive by discovering, embracing, freeing, and loving your authentic self.

How to Find the Right Mentor Relationship: To develop a successful relationship with a mentor, you must:   1.     Determine your short- and long-term goals   2.     Identify the type of mentor you need  a.     Advisor  b.     Advocate  c.      Affirmer  d.     Challenger   e.     Coach  f.      Connector  g.     Sponsor  3.     Decide if you want one-on-one or group mentorship and virtual or in-person sessions  4.     Review your professional circle and pinpoint who has your “dream job”  5.     Determine if the person is the right fit by learning about their experience in the industry or role and evaluate their successes, challenges, character, and values  6.     Create your elevator pitch  7.     Specifically tell the person what it is about their professional or personal experience that made you reach out to them and make them ask to mentor you  8.     If the person is unable to serve in a mentor capacity, birds of a feather tend to flock together, so ask them for a referral to someone that has a similar experience as they do

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